The Past, Imagination, And New Rivers
As a man passed some elephants, he suddenly stopped, confused because these giant creatures were held by only a small rope tied to their front leg. No chains, no cages. It was apparent that the elephants could break away from their bonds at any time, but for some reason, they did not.
He saw a trainer nearby and asked why these animals just stood there and made no attempt to getaway. "Well," trainer said, "when they are very young and much smaller, we use the same size rope to tie them and, at that age, it's enough to hold them. As they grow up, they are conditioned to believe they cannot break away. They believe the rope can still hold them, so they never try to break free."
The man was amazed. These animals could at any time break free from their bonds, but because they believed they couldn't, they were stuck right where they were.
How many of us live with limiting beliefs or negatives experiences of the past? Living in the past reduces our ability to craft the future you want.
Ok, Coach Job, how do I get past these problematic thinking patterns?
First, accept the fact that life is about change—everything in life changes, nothing static. Have you ever heard someone say, "she has changed?" Yep, all life does. Quit holding on to yesterday's version of ourselves and others.
Next, use your imagination to see yourself in the future. The best part of visualization is that you don't need a plan to step into your future. You only need to see yourself there.
Take on your future self's habits and behaviors is the next movement towards a preferable future, you see. Be intentional about practicing these new habits daily. Soon you will start connecting to your future self. That becomes your identity—a new you.
Now make peace with the events, experiences that affected you. Practice forgiveness. Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself. It is letting go of the subtle form of self decay.
In accepting that everything changes, seeing your future self, taking on the habits of the future you, and practicing self-care, you silence the mind from all that agitates it.
Now, you are set free. You will never step in the same river twice. It is a different river and a different person than you were yesterday.
A new river, and a new you person